I apply a bit of scented lotion to my shoulders, making sure everything is trimmed, waxed, lubed, and oiled. Sound familiar, ladies? Now that you’re reminding yourself of a Jeep, you're ready! Friday night is here, and it’s time for loving because that man is coming through. As a matter of fact, he’s been coming through for quite some time now.
You’ve been frequently seen together by your friends, his friends, and the ticket seller at the local Cineplex Odeon. So, as a couple … wait a minute ... are you a couple? You do the things that couples do and say things that couples say, but officially, have you checked monogamy off your Couples Checklist?
Now we’ve all heard of getting your cake and eating it too. What happens if you lessen the portion? What happens if you take away the cake altogether? Now I know the EwwyGooey portion of a relationship, aka the sex, can be a feel-good to both parties. But I pose this question. If a woman is intimate with a man before they are in a committed relationship … does this prolong how quickly a man will commit?
Now, some gentlemen may say that a woman who is too quick to ‘give it up’ can’t be taken seriously. But I pose the question, why, for a woman, is it the giving up and not the taking? What about the liberated, educated, free-spirited women who know what they want? There’s no need to play the waiting game. They want it. They get it. Some don’t have time to play the role of the ‘born again virgin’ each and every time they meet a man.
Others might argue that if a woman takes pride and respect for herself and her body, she should have no problem waiting before engaging in sexual activity with/ a man. She’s going to give herself a chance to get to know the gentleman better. Does this safeguard sisters from the professionals? Do you know the men who make it a profession to figure out what women want to hear and skillfully utilize it to get the prize?
Oh you have kids, man I love kids! Oh you love camping, I love camping, Oh you like money, I’ll stash some hundreds in my wallet. There are the men who are willing to look like your Mr. McDreamy, but only until they’ve knocked the boots, shoes, sandals, and flip-flops.
Remember, there’s something that we shan’t forget. Men aren’t always the ‘culprit.’ Acts of sexuality for males can obviously be connected to deep feelings for a female. He, too, can be fooled into thinking that intimate acts between the two equate to her being his boo. Women, too, may have an agenda/motive as to why they need the nookie.
Some may choose to communicate how much they care for another in the boudoir, while others may need a man to drop down on a steady knee. Some may say they like the chase, while others might think it is just a waste. Gallant men may take as long as you want, while others may tease and taunt.
The truth is that regardless of what the ‘status’ is between two consenting adults, please, brothers and sisters, and let the main ingredient be respected.
